Introduction
Why does one woman look at another with judgment? Why, instead of celebrating her success, does she envy it? Why, instead of supporting her, does she try to undermine her? These questions have crossed many of our minds. But are these behaviors truly natural, or are they the result of a game artificially constructed over years?
This article delves into the roots of negative attitudes women may hold toward each other and explores the hidden mechanisms behind them — particularly how society arms women against women.
I. “Women don’t support women” — where does this idea come from?
From childhood, girls are not taught friendship, but competition. Phrases like, “You must be prettier than her,” “Look, she’s more elegant,” “She got married before you did”… These statements embed the idea of a rival, not a friend, in young girls’ minds.
As a result, women often see each other as potential threats — in relationships, at work, or within families. This mindset divides them, weakens them, and leaves them isolated.
II. The Invisible Trap of Society
Is this competition natural? No. This rivalry has been systematically instilled to prevent women from trusting each other. While men are encouraged to unite, women are often set against one another.
Why? Because united women are powerful. They can bring about change, demand justice, and challenge systems. But women who view each other with suspicion become easier to manipulate and control.
III. Jealousy or a Cry to Be Seen?
When a woman envies another, it’s often because she feels unseen, unknown — even to herself. The other woman’s success highlights her own perceived inadequacies.
But the problem isn’t the other woman — the problem lies within the system that only values women in limited ways: by beauty, marriage, and motherhood.
A woman is not another woman’s enemy — she is simply someone searching for her rightful place.
IV. A Woman Is Both a Mirror and a Sister
In truth, a woman sees herself in another woman — her strengths, fears, and desires. That reflection can lead to either unity or rivalry.
If women see each other’s strength not as a threat, but as inspiration — the game falls apart. A woman is a mirror to another woman — a clear, honest mirror.
V. The Power of Women’s Solidarity
Throughout history, when women have united, change has followed — whether in social movements, family dynamics, or friendships. Every space where women have trusted each other has become a place of healing.
Today, we need a culture where women lift each other up, hear each other’s voices, celebrate each other, and protect one another.
Conclusion: Not Rivalry, but a Culture of Support
Female rivalry is, in fact, self-betrayal. But once we recognize this game — we can choose to rewrite its rules.
If we turn competition into companionship, envy into admiration, and silence into dialogue — a woman becomes a friend both to herself and to other women.
Because a woman’s strength is hidden in the hand of another woman.
And when those hands join, they become a force of transformation.