Introduction
Motherhood is a cherished and sanctified identity. Yet often, this identity consumes all other aspects of a woman — her femininity, creativity, desires, and dreams. Sometimes, being a mother is not an act of becoming, but rather a process of forgetting oneself.
But is this a miracle a woman chooses willingly, or a silent disappearance imposed by society? In this article, we will explore the unseen sides of motherhood — the deep layers of sacrifice, silence, and rebirth.
I. The Disappearance That Begins with Motherhood
When a woman becomes a mother, she is no longer just “herself.” She becomes responsible for someone else’s sleep, hunger, fears, and growth. She gives herself — her time, body, and soul — to another.
Sleepless nights, forgotten interests, postponed desires… All of these feel like a renunciation of the self. And sometimes this renunciation runs so deep that a woman needs to look in the mirror just to remember who she is.
II. In Society’s Eyes: Selfless, but Invisible
Society glorifies motherhood — but only for its outcomes. If a child is raised well, respect follows. But the woman’s inner struggle, exhaustion, and depletion often remain invisible.
Motherhood carries the risk of not only forgetting one's desires but losing oneself entirely. Because the “mother” role often cancels out all the others.
III. The Questions Inside the Woman
“Who was I?”
“What did I love before I became a mother?”
“Why do I feel so much longing, but can’t find a reason?”
These questions wander silently inside the woman. They don’t demand answers, but they whisper, trying to guide her back to herself.
IV. Can One Be Reborn Through Motherhood?
Motherhood isn’t only a disappearance — it is also a reconstruction.
Sometimes, through this process, a woman discovers herself more deeply: her patience, her love, her limits, her strength. But this discovery only becomes a miracle if she doesn’t lose herself entirely — if she can remain centered in her own “self” while being a mother.
V. Remaining a Mother Without Forgetting Oneself
A woman can be a mother, a woman, and a human being — all at once. But for that, she needs support, understanding, time, and freedom.
She must live her dreams alongside raising a child. She must be not only someone’s mother but also the keeper of her own soul.
Conclusion:
Motherhood is neither pure absence nor only a miracle — it is a woman standing at the intersection of both.
A woman’s motherhood is the silent heroism within sacrifice. But this heroism should not come at the cost of erasing herself.
When motherhood becomes an experience that doesn’t destroy the woman, but deepens her identity — only then can she be whole, both as a mother and as a person.
A woman must not be forgotten — neither by others, nor within herself.